I love that title because it feels like
I'm about to talk to you in a school-special kind of way. I'm not. I
hope. But let's start with the bottom basics and use the
Merriam-Webster's definition:
kink
6 : unconventional sexual taste or
behavior
I love this definition because it uses
the word unconventional. It's not dating itself. Prior to Fifty
Shades of Grey most folks wouldn't know what a flogger was. Some
folks might even use a flogger now in their bedroom. Some folks still
don't and that's okay, because this definition covers it. Kink is
something that sexually arouses you that you probably wouldn't admit
to in polite circles. That's it. That's kink.
Of course that's not the end of the
post.
Why are we talking about this?
Well...this is like lube before I unleash KILTED FOR PLEASURE out
into the world. I didn't give you any with UNDER HIS KILT and HER
INSATIABLE SCOT. I was totally remiss in that. My Under The Kilt
series, at least when it deals with sex, is all about exploration and
limitations, especially through the heroine's POV. Jocelyn had never
experienced the kind of sex that strips you down to your most basic
and primitive self. She had candles and flowers and soft music kind
of sex. Keri couldn't relax enough to really, really enjoy flesh
meeting flesh. She knew what she wanted but was too shy to ask for
it. Victoria, the newest heroine, is savvy. (Or believes herself to
be but she hasn't met a Baird yet.) She has explored. She isn't
afraid to ask for what she wants. So where does that leave her on the
spectrum I've set up for myself and you readers?
Let's backtrack a little bit. One of my dear writing friends
sort of made it a challenge. To not spoil her book, let's just say
the hero had a very interesting sexual background but he liked
vanilla sex. And I said, "Wouldn't it be interesting to show the
heroine that Kink, yes, with a capital K, can be arousing?" Hell, the
heroine probably is kinky in her own little way. My writerly friend
went Nope. Nope. Nope. And that's when my plot bunnies came out
to play.
Because here's the thing,
unconventional is such a vague word. Everyone would agree the
missionary position is pretty basic and there's nothing kinky about
it. Now let's take that the position, and place it in a roomful of
people. Yes. You're doing the deed in the missionary position, but
you have a roomful of people watching you. I'm sorry, that's kinky.
Most folks don't invite an audience when they have sex. Most folks
would probably suffer from performance anxiety and/or
OMG-I'm-Naked-In-Front-Of-People. And for some people they would be
incredibly aroused. They would prefer to have sex in a roomful of
people.
And then you would have the sub-set of
folks who would simply be aroused by the idea. Someone is watching
you being pleasured (I know, a huge euphemism) and you really, really
like that idea.
This particular kink has a
name—exhibitionism.
That seems
extreme. But this plot bunny went down a deep, dark hole and I found
other things that would be considered kinks:
Role playing
Having sex in
the tub or shower
Sex with a man
(or woman) who has a beard
Having sex with
more than one person i.e menages
Being tied up
Fellacio (If you don't know what that word means Google it.)
Foreplay
Geeks
Jocks
Massages
Nipple
stimulation
Having sex with
a man who is well-endowed
No. Seriously.
The list goes on and on and on. BELIEVE ME. I researched it. These
things can be kinks if you are unconventionally into it in a sexual
way. And who exactly makes the rules of what conventional is? For
some, if you require more than ten minutes of foreplay you're kinky.
But these are all things you can find in an everyday romance novel.
Hell, things we might like in the bedroom.
And they could
very well be a kink.
Or, kink-lite as
I call it in KFP. And that became the thing of this book, this
heroine who is savvy and has explored—finding the roots or the
foundation of what is considered conventional and making the logical
kinky connection.
So, yeah, this
is the fair warning. You will find clit spanking, erotic
asphyxiation, exhibitionism and voyeurism in KILTED FOR PLEASURE.
It's all very innocent and conventional the way it's written. And
depending on who you ask, it can also be considered a kink.
What do you
think a kink is?
